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Need help with your riding-crop technique? Wonder how to wrap your husband like a mummy? Or maybe you caught your girlfriend wistfully eyeing a pair of handcuffs in a shop window and simply want to know how to bring up the subject with her. Sensuous Magic has the answers. Writer, therapist, and sex radical Patrick Califia-Rice has updated his classic introduction to S/M anNeed help with your riding-crop technique? Wonder how to wrap your husband like a mummy? Or maybe you caught your girlfriend wistfully eyeing a pair of handcuffs in a shop window and simply want to know how to bring up the subject with her. Sensuous Magic has the answers. Writer, therapist, and sex radical Patrick Califia-Rice has updated his classic introduction to S/M and power play to embrace couples of all persuasions and at every stage of experience. Although not a comprehensive technical guide (you will need a book on rope bondage, for instance, if you want to learn appropriate knots and techniques), Califia-Rice's text offers insightful warnings, advice, and commentary, the kind of guidance you might expect from a seasoned mentor. It is especially well-suited to daring beginners, who can learn the basics on safety and communication, while being titillated by more advanced topics like whip selection and master/slave contracts. --Regina Marler...

Title : Sensuous Magic: A Guide for Adventurous Lovers
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ISBN : 9781563336102
Format Type : Mass Market Paperback
Number of Pages : 304 Pages
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Sensuous Magic: A Guide for Adventurous Lovers Reviews

  • j
    2019-05-06 22:24

    Dear Patrick Califia:Marry me. Okay, not really. (At least not until bigamy is legal.) But in seriousness, I am pretty sure this is the best beginner S&M book I've ever read and anyone who is even THINKING about getting kinky with it should definitely give it a shot. There are many good BDSM books marketed towards beginners, but I find they all have flaws - either not enough information, or a scope that's so excessive as to be terrifying to a rank novice. I've read "novice" BDSM books that included extensive writings on roleplaying centered around rape, racism, and hate crimes, and while that stuff is very interesting and useful for folks who want to go there, putting it in a beginner book is a great way to freak the hell out of people who are still getting used to the idea of deliberate power exchange in the first place. I could go on forever. But the awesome thing about "Sensuous Magic" is that it doesn't baby-talk to you, but it also speaks directly to those of us who came to BDSM having absolutely no clue what we're doing. (For example, the zillions of us who began to fool around with kink stuff because our partners asked us to.) We can't just act out the scene we've been wanking to since we were 15 because that's not something that exists for us. In fact, having read a lot of his essays and such in the past, the fact that this is sort of not marketed as a BDSM book (you'll notice there's no explicit reference to S&M or kink anywhere in the title, so it doesn't come up if you're doing a search on, say, Amazon) is utterly hilarious to me. The other thing I've always loved about Califia is that he takes a pragmatic approach to all this. For example, the idea that not everyone needs a safeword in the traditional sense, because "no stop" works just fine for most people, is something I've long argued in favor of. I've also found myself to agree strongly with him on the idea that not everything needs to be negotiated to death. I feel like he understands how actual real people do BDSM, and thus the information he provides are things you'll actually use. The blending of short stories/narrative scenes with the informational segments is brilliant, and possibly my favorite thing about it. There's a great variety of scenes, roles, genders, etc. and it's great inspiration for those of us who suck at coming up with scenes on our own. basically, read this book. You'll like it, I promise.

  • Agnieszka
    2019-05-14 00:29

    This is a review of the updated version. I understand the first version was a lot more focused on het couples. Although this isn't primarily a book about leather scene history in San Francisco, you get to learn a lot about it on the way. Maybe all this great queer stuff wasn't there in the first edition. A couple of things make this book stand out in a world of sex and BDSM advice books and tech manuals. First, the writing. It's really good! A lot of books about sex, in an attempt to be not salacious, get really dry and medical. Calfia manages to write about sex in a way that's both colloquial and informative, and yes, sexy. The little bits of erotica at the end of each chapter that demonstrate what has been discussed are erotic (except for a couple that were really not my kink, even in fiction so YMMV) and represent a delightful sampling of sexual orientations. (Very much not just het monogamy). Second, this book is very insightful about the psychological side of BDSM. Lots of manuals tell you in detail how to perform some technical thing. This one talks about the emotional.

  • Ellie
    2019-04-28 21:21

    A well constructed introduction to BDSM that may be too much for the true novice - I know I certainly got nervous whenever the subject of blood was brought up. Nonetheless, the author makes a strong attempt to quell fears.An especially nice touch was the addition of short stories describing scenes at the end of each chapter, featuring a variety of activities and gender combination. Probably the only thing bad about this book is that the number of these stories begin to dwindle as the book progresses, to the point where some of the last chapters have no short stories at all. Which is a shame, because they will be many readers favorite part of the book.

  • Michelle
    2019-04-19 20:33

    A decent summary of BDSM culture and practices by Pat Califia (the author was female-identified when my edition was published in the late 90s, though they are now male-identified and go by Patrick). Oddly hetero-oriented, given who the author is, though certainly other sexualities are addressed as well. Very safety-first, for which I give it an A++. Short on fantasy, long on practicality, which I find rather refreshing.

  • Sheryl
    2019-04-18 19:32

    A very practical, no funnystuff guide aimed primarily at hetero couples interested in first time S/M exploration.I can't say that it was "instructional" for me (except for the caution against whipping someone along the spine...that really sunk in!) but Pat/rick's style is so enjoyable that I will read almost anything with interest.

  • Kal Cobalt
    2019-05-04 00:44

    Out of all the BDSM stuff out there, I really only ever recommend two books to relative newcomers. This is the one I loan out for people who need more information than basic physical stuff -- who want to know more about the "why" of BDSM and how it works in a larger context. I can't imagine a better introduction to the field.

  • Transgender Bathroom
    2019-05-12 18:30

    If you'd like to know what I thought of this book, please contact me directly and I'd be happy to discuss it with you.All the best,- TB

  • Annamarie
    2019-05-09 23:37

    A bit outdated now, but a good basic guide. To be honest, I mostly skimmed this one as I've read so many "101" books by now!

  • J Crossley
    2019-05-04 21:34

    This book provides ideas and scenarios to spice up your BDSM play.

  • Jeanette Cupcake
    2019-05-19 01:23

    I bought this when I first was introduced to S/M and Pat Califia. I read it when I get in the mood, and I love it. Very informative and well- its by Pat Califia!

  • Mopheadf
    2019-05-08 21:37

    Read it for the academic ideas and porn, not for technique.

  • Sylvie
    2019-05-06 17:22

    good read, took my time so i could absorb the info