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It's hard to overestimate the importance of the family, and that of fathers in particular. We've heard it said, "As the family goes, so goes the nation." But it can also be said that "as the father goes, so goes the family." Consequently, Voddie Baucham has set out to teach men how to faithfully shepherd their families.Derived from Baucham's monthly meetings with men in hiIt's hard to overestimate the importance of the family, and that of fathers in particular. We've heard it said, "As the family goes, so goes the nation." But it can also be said that "as the father goes, so goes the family." Consequently, Voddie Baucham has set out to teach men how to faithfully shepherd their families.Derived from Baucham's monthly meetings with men in his church, Family Shepherds calls men to accountability for their God-given responsibilities in their homes. Baucham's clear style and practical approach will spur men to protect their marriage, raise kingdom-minded children, value the synergy between church and home, and navigate difficult family dynamics.Family Shepherds is a book for any husband or father looking to lead well, and it will serve as an excellent resource for churches looking to equip the men in their congregations....

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Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes Reviews

  • Felipe
    2018-10-23 11:41

    Excelente como sempre!

  • John
    2018-11-18 03:29

    Voddie leaves behind some of his traditional decisive language to call men to step up as heads of households. It was in typical Voddie style, challenging and convicting. The most helpful portions were the two chapters on formative and corrective discipline. Interestingly, he takes Michael Pearl and To Train up a Child, a pillar of the homeschool movement, to task. Voddie was admittedly a proponent of the book only a couple years ago but has soured on it after another close read. He calls Pearl a behavioral Pelagian who misunderstands the Gospel and has effectively lead a generation of parents astray. Family Shepherds is by far the most Gospel saturated of his books. To his credit, he has clearly listened to the critiques of his views and takes great pains to clarify his ecclesiology and soteriology. In attempt to do so however, I found the book very disjointed and fragmented. It seemed to be almost an anthology of his views on marriage, biblical leadership, multigenerational discipleship vs. peer to peer, the Gospel, church membership, the Kingdom. I agree with all of what he says but each chapter could have been a book in itself. One has to wonder if Voddie, desperate to bridge the doctrinally-sound family integrated community with more mainstream evangelical leaders was simply extending an olive branch through this publication. He quotes many modern and Puritan leaders. It read almost like a vision of ministry rather than a cohesive and practical argument for a return to biblical male headship. I think Family Driven Faith was a much better book but if you're looking for a flyover of various issues facing the church today, this is a fruitful and easy read.

  • Leandro Guimarães
    2018-11-03 10:35

    A very good call for fathers (and single mothers) to shepherd their families. Which incidentally would make churches more like communities and less like clubs or enterprises. Deeply felt, well founded in both Scripture and the history of the Church, pointing to precious other resources.A minor grip: it consistently uses ‘principle’ (which would mean fundament) where it meant ‘principal’ (meaning proeminent). Together with colloquialisms such as using ‘impact’ everywhere where ‘change’, ‘effect’ or ‘impression’ would be better, it detracts from otherwise a very well edited and printed work.

  • Brian Cain
    2018-11-01 09:28

    A clear understanding of Biblical principles and great advice for new and old husbands & fathers.

  • Paul
    2018-10-25 05:40

    Where are the Shepherds of the Family?A Book Review of Family Shepherds Since May of 2011 I have had the privilege of reviewing 14 books on various topics and of different genre, and from various publishers. I am honored to have this opportunity, and humbled that my opinion is of value to you who have read my various book reviews. I owe a special thanks to my friend and Christian Brother, Dave Jenkins, who was willing to contact Crossway and let them know that I would be honored to review for them as well. Thank you Brother. Dave and I have a lot of similar interests in books, and the book I’m writing on today is no different. I have just finished reading Family Shepherds by Dr. Voddie Baucham Jr. Dr. Baucham is a pastor at a Church here in my area. He serves as the preaching pastor at Grace Family Baptist Church out of Spring, TX. It is possible I have met Dr. Baucham as he is a shopper at a Christian retail location where I work. I don’t recall if I have or not, but it is exciting that there is a chance if I haven’t I someday may. I usually select books that interest me to review for the various publishers. I figure if I am going to take the time to read a book then it should be something that can give me some practical guidance for where I am at in my life. Family Shepherds falls well within this category. As a husband and father of five I am always trying to see the best way to serve and to lead my family in the path of righteousness and to deepen their love for our LORD and Savior Jesus Christ. Deuteronomy 6:4-9 is a passage that every father/family shepherd should know, for in it we see the very foundation of why we should be the family shepherd. Hear, O Israel: The LORD our God, the LORD is one. You shall love the LORD your God with all your heart and with all you soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of you house and on your gates. (Englsih Standard Version 2001) One of the key words in this passage is the word “command”. God did not ask us to teach our children, He commanded that we do so. It is with this premise that Dr. Baucham begins to write Family Shepherds. In Family Shepherds Dr. Baucham breaks the roles of the Family Shepherd into four key areas. These four key areas break down like this; first, family discipleship and evangelism; second, marriage enrichment; third, the training and discipline of children; and finally, the need for lifestyle evaluation. Since my job is to get you interested in the book we are only going to take a look at a couple of these areas momentarily, and then you’ll have to read the rest. I write out this key passage from Deuteronomy not just to challenge you, but to challenge myself. This is how I felt as I began to read this newest book from Voddie. How am I doing in discipleship and evangelism? Is my marriage stronger now than it was ten years ago? Am I training my children as I ought, teaching them the need of salvation for the deliverance of their sin, or am I teaching behavioral/morality changes without the necessary authority and need of Christ as LORD of their lives? Dr. Baucham quotes Charles Hodge, a well known theologian in the mid-nineteenth century (Baucham, Voddie 2011) who said: “The character of the Church and of the state depends on the character of the family. If religion dies out in the family, it cannot elsewhere be maintained.” (Hodge 1871) If fathers are not doing the job God entrusted them with, then we are only leading to our own demise.In his section on Family Discipleship and Evangelism Dr. Baucham discusses the benefit and purpose of having a family catechism. The idea of a catechism has been part of the Church for probably centuries, and was used by Catholic and Protestant Theologians alike. To be honest when I first saw this chapter on catechism I was about ready to skip it. However, I decided to read it because I was curious about what Dr. Baucham’s thoughts where on this idea. First, for those who maybe aren’t familiar with the term catechism let me first use Dr. Baucham’s explanation. “It is simply a pedagogical method employing questions and answers to teach a set body of knowledge. Ultimately, it is a means of teaching Christian doctrine in a concise, repetitive manner. (Baucham, Voddie 2011) Although a very foreign concept in today’s modern day Protestants the catechism was used by great Protestant theologians such as Martin Luther and Jonathan Edwards. I am blessed to have in my possession a copy of Luther’s small catechism that belonged to my father. My wife and I are in discussion in to implementing a catechism in our house thanks to this section of Family Shepherds. Another powerful section of Family Shepherds is the section on the training and discipline of children. This is a very hotly contested area especially in light of the post-modern day view of “love and tolerance”. So often we hear people say we shouldn’t judge, we need to let our children make their own decisions, so forth and so forth. To the secular world the very idea of a “family shepherd” is counter-intuitive, yet as we see crime rates grow, never has something been more important than the role of fathers raising their children. In Christianity especially there are two authors who have addressed the specific topic of discipline and training of children; Michael Pearl and his book To Train a Child and Tedd Tripp and his book Shepherding a Child’s Heart. Again I own a copy of both of these books so when I came to chapter 10 I came to it with an understanding of both of the trains of thought represented by these two authors. Between these two authors there is a major difference that I noticed as did Voddie. First Michael Pearl has the philosophy that “training doesn’t necessarily require that the trainee has reason; even mice and rats can be trained to respond to stimuli.” (Pearl 1994) However, Tedd Tripp starts off his book this way, “The Scripture teaches that the heart is the control center for life.” (Tripp 1995) One doesn’t have to look very far to spot the vast difference between these two authors. Michael Pearl believes you can teach behavior through stimuli while Tedd Tripp points to the fact that the heart is the control center of a person’s life which means to train them up you must address the heart. In Family Shepherds Dr. Baucham says this, “We must have a grasp on our children’s greatest need if we ever hope to see it met.” (Baucham, Voddie 2011) I would be lying to say that this did not strike me right between the eyes. So often when I train or discipline my children, I’m not focusing on the control center of their lives, their hearts, I’m focusing on what makes me happy.If we as fathers are only focusing on behavior or morals, then we do not love our children as Christ loved us. If we are focusing on behavior or morals then we are not training up our children to love the LORD with all of their heart and all their soul and all their might. Jeremiah 17:9 tells us that “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately sick; who can understand it?” (Englsih Standard Version 2001) Matthew 12:34 says, “You brood of vipers! How can you speak good, when you are evil? For out of the abundance of the heart the mouth speaks.” (Englsih Standard Version 2001) If we as fathers do not address the heart of our children, and strive to lead them to saving faith in Jesus Christ, then we are shepherds who have failed. Dr. Baucham quotes the great Puritan preacher Jonathan Edwards (Baucham, Voddie 2011) who said, “How few are there who are thorough in maintaining order and government in their families! How is family-government in a great measure vanished! And how many are as likely to bring a curse upon their families, as Eli.” (Edwards 1835) Dr. Baucham is a huge proponent of the age-integrated congregation. What this means is that his Church does not practice such things as nursery, children’s church, youth group, or even Men or Women’s Bible studies, although they do have a monthly Men’s meeting. I do not agree with Dr. Baucham on this of course, and in fact want to point out what I see as a slight contradiction in his book. First, he says this: Virtually all the debate over the discipleship of young people begins with the assumption that church structures and programs such as the nursery, children’s church, Sunday school, and youth group are foundational discipleship tools and whatever happens must take place within that framework. (Baucham, Voddie 2011)I disagree with this assumption, and would in fact argue that these programs and church structures are helpful, and can serve as a supplemental, not a foundational discipleship tool. More so I believe that Dr. Baucham contradicts himself only three pages later when he says, “We do not rely either on the pulpit or on the home. Both institutions are charged to play their role.” (Baucham, Voddie 2011) This being said however, I do find this to be a book that every Church leader, father, mother, and Church staff should read. I agree with the premise that discipleship ultimately rests in the home. As one looks at the direction society is taking there is no doubt in my mind that it is time for the father to be his family’s shepherd.From where I stand, even though I may not agree with everything that Dr. Voddie Baucham believes I still see this book as a must read, and gladly rate it 5 out of 5. I’m honored to have added this book to my library and look forward to reading through it again and again as Dr. Baucham helps teach me and all men how to be Family Shepherds.Disclosure of Material Connection: I received this book free from Crossway as part of their Blogger Review Program. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255: “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”Works CitedBaucham, Voddie. Family Shepherds. Wheaton: Crossway, 2011.Edwards, Jonathan. "Christian Cautions: or, The Necessity of Self-Examination." In The Works of Jonathan Edwards, 1:183. New York: Daniel Appleton and Co., 1835.Englsih Standard Version. Crossway Bibles, 2001.Hodge, Charles. Systematic Theology. Vol. 3. New York: C. Scribner, 1871.Pearl, Michael. To Train Up a Child. Pleasantville: NGJ Ministries, 1994.Tripp, Tedd. Shepherding a Child's Heart. Wapwallopen: Shpherd Press, 1995.

  • Michael Boling
    2018-11-04 10:36

    As a husband and a relatively new father of 13 year old adopted daughter, I am always on the lookout for helpful resources that direct the reader to solid biblical truth on how to lead a family by the grace of God. There are certainly many books on the market that provide 10 ways to accomplish this aspect or 5 ways to better do that; however, few tackle in a comprehensive yet accessible manner how husbands and fathers are to best fulfill their calling to shepherd their families as Scripture outlines. Voddie Baucham, in his book Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes provides a marvelously helpful guide on what it means to be a leader in the manner that God desires.Baucham divides this book into five sections each addressing a separate yet intimately related aspect of family shepherding. For those who may not be familiar with what the concept of a family shepherd looks like, Baucham rightly notes this duty if you will involves the need for fathers to “take the helm and begin to lead and disciple their wives and children. This taking of the family helm is rooted in God’s own role as our Heavenly Father. Baucham aptly comments that as men, “We’re the governors and guides of our families, and the way we lead has far-reaching implications.” In each of the sections of this book, Baucham remains firmly fixed on outlining the why, what, and how of what it means for fathers and husbands to lead.Part one deals with the necessity that exists for men to be equipped with the tools to lead with a focus given by Baucham throughout on the biblical view of the family. While many pay lip service to the reality that parents, in particular fathers have been given the god ordained role of raising and discipling their children, many leave that responsibility to church programs such as youth group or Sunday School. To demonstrate what the biblical model looks like, Baucham takes the reader on a journey through Scripture, noting along the way the methodology and importance given to family discipleship. After building that foundation, he then provides a three-pronged approach to implementing biblical discipleship in the home. Parenting is after all more than schoolwork or ensuring your children do not embarrass you with their behavior out in public. Baucham correctly reminds us that we are raising the next generation of believers and the focus should be on raising a godly generation of men and women who are godly and mature. In part two, Baucham explores family discipleship and evangelism within the home. We often think of evangelism as an external activity, something along the lines of going to where the heathen are and passing out some tracts in order to help people get “saved”, something far too often viewed as a singular event. Baucham avers “we must not make the mistake of reducing the gospel to introductory status. The gospel is all-encompassing.” Since the gospel produces faith, repentance, and obedience, proclaiming the gospel at all times in our homes is something the family shepherd must be about doing at all times. This is in accordance with the mandate provided in Deuteronomy 6. Baucham suggests a way to instill biblical knowledge in the home is through the lost practice of catechism. Those not familiar with that term or who might associate it as some sort of Catholic Church tradition are reminded by Baucham that at its core, “Catechism is simply a pedagogical method employing questions and answers to teach a set body of knowledge.” Essentially it involves sitting down with your family, reading Scripture and then discussing what you have read. Combined with family worship, something Baucham also encourages in this book, the reader will have a solid methodology by which to engage in sharing the gospel in their home.A strong and biblically rooted marriage is another vital element in the home and Baucham tackles that subject in part three. Husbands are commanded to love their wives as Christ loved the church, a tall and sometimes heady goal yet something we should all strive towards. In fact, Baucham states “leading a wife is the foundation upon which a man’s shepherding ministry in the home is built. Engaging this foundation, Baucham discusses the fact that marriage is for procreation, sanctification, and finally a picture of our own relationship as believers with Christ. Furthermore, he notes what it means to live in the covenant of marriage. I appreciated his comments on rooting a marriage properly in the covenant of marriage rather than in our children. Many friends of mine who are now empty nesters are having a hard time adjusting to their children leaving home. Their lives were so focused on their children that once their children departed, they have issues relating to one another. The family shepherd must train up a child in the way they should so when they are old they will not depart from that foundation. This necessarily involves training and discipline, two topics Baucham engages in part four. Anyone with children or who have ever been around children know that even the loveliest and well behaved child is a sinner. We live in a fallen world and family shepherds must help their children understand their need for the grace of God provided through the cross. Moreover, Baucham reminds the reader that “We’re not merely managing our children’s behavior; we’re actually instructing them in righteousness.” This will require jettisoning the popular approach of being your child’s buddy. Family shepherds must deal with sinful behavior, remind and teach them of what God expects and why, and call them to a place of repentance. Perhaps most important is the need for family shepherds to live and walk their talk and foremost to pray for your children. This restraining of sin will inevitably require corrective discipline. This tool is noted by Baucham as something that is not something that will bring about salvation but rather “it’s a tool God has given us, and he expects us to employ it in the monumental task of bringing up our children “in the discipline and instruction of the Lord.”The final section of this book provides a lifestyle evaluation for family shepherds, specifically the opportunity to assess our lives and to effect any needed changes. Baucham encourages husbands to be actively involved in a local church community. Church attendance is more than something to check off the weekly things to do list. It is a place where we can be edified, where we can connect with other family shepherds to encourage one another and to be encouraged. Baucham also addresses how family shepherds make use of their time. One thing I appreciated that Baucham addressed is the need for Sabbath rest, giving God a day He commands we give Him. The Sabbath often gets a bad name these days as some associate the Sabbath day with those who overreach on the works side of the issue. Baucham rightly reminds the reader that taking a day of rest involves what it was intended to be when God commanded Israel to observe this day, namely spending time with family and fellow believers in devoting a day to God and to serving Him, whether that is at home or at church. This serves to set the example for our children on the need to constantly focus on the things of God.Family Shepherds is a book I highly recommend for all husbands and fathers to read. Baucham provides a number of important concepts that are biblically rooted and practical and if implemented will go a long way to helping family shepherds fulfill their God given mandate to lead their families in the things of God. I received this book for free from Crossway Books for this review. I was not required to write a positive review. The opinions I have expressed are my own. I am disclosing this in accordance with the Federal Trade Commission’s 16 CFR, Part 255 : “Guides Concerning the Use of Endorsements and Testimonials in Advertising.”

  • Tagore Martins
    2018-10-22 08:31

    O livro é basicamente uma defesa de uma Reforma na maneira como enxergamos a religião familiar e o papel do pai na família. É uma obra que desafia a maneira como enxergamos o papel de Pai e de Marido, divergindo amplamente do que é rotineiro na cultura - incluindo a cultura predominante nas igrejas brasileiras. Voddie tem o espírito de basear cada capítulo nas escrituras, de modo que pode ser um excelente auxílio ao estudo da masculinidade bíblica a homens casados e solteiros, independente de suas idades.O livro divide-se em 5 partes. A primeira refere-se a uma visão geral da família, partindo dos pressupostos bíblicos. A segunda se refere ao discipulado e evangelismo familiar, onde discute como o evangelho deve ser a base para o relacionamento familiar e seu anúncio constante em casa, além da importância do catecismo e do culto doméstico.Segue-se uma parte sobre o enriquecimento do casamento, onde Voddie defende que o casamento baseia-se primariamente na relação marido-esposa e que os filhos não devem ser centrais e únicos no casamento. Sua defesa parte da figura bíblica do casamento como relacionamento de Cristo com a Igreja e há um breve argumento contra os presentes pensamentos oriundos do feminismo que batalham contra o mandato bíblico relacionado a liderança e entrega sacrificial amorosa masculinas, conforme as escrituras. A parte quatro refere-se a educação de filhos. Voddie começa considerando que os filhos herdaram uma natureza caída, necessitada de redenção. Argumenta, portanto, que os filhos devem ser sempre admoestados olhando-se para o evangelho, visto que ele é tesouro inestimável a alma. Após isso, mostra como a disciplina formativa deve ter primazia sobre a disciplina corretiva, sem que a última seja excluída. Voddie faz uma breve, mas clara defesa da palmada como ferramenta de amor, lembrando que ela é um recurso último, que jamais deve ser feito com raiva, nem deve ser feito de modo a ser mais presente que a disciplina formativa. De forma nenhuma conseguirei expressar isso com a mesma riqueza e sabedoria que Voddie faz nessa pequena resenha. A parte cinco é um desafio a análise do estilo de vida do homem. Fala sobre a importância da igreja, do uso do tempo e da vida como cidadão do Reino espiritual e do reino terreno. Como ele mesmo disse, essa parte poderia tornar-se sozinha um livro inteiro. A caneta afiada fere a partir das escrituras, como por todo o livro.Por último, há uma explanação da resposta bíblica às famílias sem pais. Há a explicação de qual o papel da igreja nisso e fundamentos para o entendimento de como as mães solteiras devem administrar suas famílias segundo as escrituras. Os apêndices finais servem como acessórias a prática da oração e uso de outras ferramentas para auxilio daqueles que empenharem-se em tornar-se pastores de família. Um livro atual, que trata de responsabilidades de consequências eternas.

  • Jeff
    2018-11-10 06:36

    I really liked how this book started out. I like Voddie when he gets into specifics and talks about actual incidents and stories. I got less interested in the book the further I went along because the book devolved into generalities that just weren't very insightful. There were also a couple of oddities like his grounding the need for men to be family shepherds on the dominion mandate of Genesis 1:28. What? At best, family shepherding is an implication from an implication of Genesis 1:28. More helpful, I thought, was his insight that Titus includes no description of how men should act (while it includes a lengthy description of how women should act) because the qualifications of an elder ARE the description of what every man should aspire to be.There were a few other things like catechism that I wasn't crazy about. But the main disappointment was that Voddie is so much more pointed and colorful in person. His writing just gets weak and abstract so that you get done with a chapter and feel like not much was actually said. I think especially, in a book written to men he could afford to be a lot more direct and challenging. For instance, there was a whole section of the book (4 chapters) on how men would probably need to radically change their lifestyle in order to be family shepherds. But I came away from it not getting a real sense of anything specific that any man would ever need to change.This may all stem from my general frustration with the modern Reformed church being big on theology and not big on models. Humans need incarnated truth. The Word became flesh because we need both words and example. So, theologians, don't be so afraid to put forward examples! Especially in a book where we don't know the author and can't observe his life.

  • John Rimmer
    2018-10-31 04:42

    Read and re-read with others. Great food for the husband and father. Enjoyed the emphasis placed on integrity versus compartmentalization. Simplified and integrated a lot of impulses that before seemed to be in conflict, showing how they should all flow out of the same center. Would recommend to anyone who wants to serve their family as Christ would have them do.

  • James Lynch
    2018-11-18 03:45

    Phenomenal. Biblical. Excellent incorporation of church history. Fearless. Pastoral. Highly recommend to all Christians, especially husbands and fathers. One of the best books on the family I have ever encountered.

  • Austin
    2018-11-17 09:40

    This is a great book that really challenged my thinking on church and the family and how I do both. It's a great entry into biblical gospel based living as a family. I'm giving this to my brother in law who just had his 1st baby. Marking this book in goodreads so I'll know to re-read it!

  • David Pulliam
    2018-11-16 04:31

    General and non specific: do catechisms, do discipline, do family worship, do the sabbath. Other then that, he does not give a lot of specifics on being a leader in the home. A bit disappointed by it.

  • Paul Harrison
    2018-11-11 11:26

    Good book for dadsI appreciate Baucham's clear style. He is not afraid to step on toes, but does it in a caring way.

  • Erik Spohr
    2018-11-22 05:36

    Easily one of the best books I have ever read on the topic of being a Godly husband and father. I highly recommend.

  • Jason Kanz
    2018-11-06 07:46

    I am a big fan of Voddie Baucham. I particularly appreciated two other books of his: Family Driven Faith and What He Must Be if He Wants to Marry My Daughter. Some readers react strongly to Baucham because he is bold in his presentation, if not thoroughly biblical. The most recent offering was Family Shepherds: Calling and Equipping Men to Lead Their Homes (2011). Although he often speaks to dads, this one is directly addressed to fathers as he calls them to shepherd their families well. He includes several major sections in the book including: the need to equip family shepherds, family discipleship and evangelism, marriage enrichment, the training and discipleship of children, and lifestyle evaluation. In the first section, he writes about the 3-legged stool of discipleship revealed in Titus, which includes the need for 1) godly, mature men and women in the church; 2) godly, manly pastors and elders; and 3) biblically functioning homes. He writes, "if we are going to see a generation of young men rise to the occasion and begin to disciple their families, it will be due in large part to the reestablishment of the biblical paradigm of mature believers pouring their lives into younger Christians, and demonstrating godliness and maturity to them by their daily lives" (p. 30). We cannot underestimate the importance of strong biblical mentoring in the context of a local church. In the second section, he talks about putting the good news of the gospel in front of our children and helping them to get it right. Baucham tells his reader what the gospel is and what the gospel requires. He also calls for restoring the tradition of catechizing our children, which is an objective way of teaching our children biblical truths. There are many wonderful catechisms available for families who want to pursue this way of training. This process of catechism would seem to be linked with his call for family worship, daily times when the father instructs his wife and children in the truths of scripture. In the third section, Baucham rightly talks about the importance of marriage and honoring the marriage bed as a way to shepherd children. Children need to see their parents functioning well in the marital relationship. As a part of this section, he makes an unapologetic argument for the biblical mandate for male headship in the home which has been under attack not only from secular culture, but also from certain sectors within the church. Baucham rightly asks not what does society say, but what does the Bible say. In the fourth section, he talks about the training and discipline of children. He makes a distinction between formative and corrective discipline, a distinction that is good to consider. He argues that 90% of our discipline of our children should be formative which involves instructing, training, and rebuking our children, whereas corrective discipline deals with disobedience. One area in particular that I appreciated about section four was that Baucham spends some time writing a critique of Michael Pearl's To Train Up a Child, which is popular among certain homeschooling groups (as Baucham himself is). I have many friends who like this book and have used it successfully with their children, so I want to tread lightly. Essentially, Baucham views Pearl's work as theologized behaviorism and warmed over semi-pelagianism. Specifically, he cites example after example from Pearl's work that does not fit with scripture. For example, Pearl refers to children as "incomplete creations" and "not morally viable souls", which is inconsistent with the teaching of scripture. Baucham also points out a section in Pearl's work where he alludes to each child having to stand for themselves before the tree of the knowledge of good and evil and decide for themselves, which leans toward an outright denial of original sin. Baucham comments, "the result is a child training approach that relies on behavioral modification as opposed to spiritual transformation. Instead of the child's greatest need being the gospel, his greatest need is a parent whose 'role is not like that of policemen, but more like that of the Holy Spirit," since the child is 'incapable of holding moral values.'" Baucham contrasts Pearl's approach with authors like Tedd Tripp (Shepherding a Child's Heart), who views children "not as morally neutral or incomplete beings, but sinners" which is grounded in Psalm 51 and other scriptures.In the final section, he encourages a lifestyle evaluation. He talks about the importance of church membership and having people who are able to speak into the lives of one another. He also discusses a fairly careful analysis of how we spend our time as family shepherds. He concludes with a brief, albeit important, section on how single mom's are to function in regard to this mindset and what is the role of family and church.On the whole, this is a very good book. I still prefer his earlier and longer book Family Driven Faith, though this is a short, worthwhile read. If you are father, I would commend this work to you.

  • Deb Dietrich
    2018-10-26 04:32

    It was quite good. Read for a pastor's coaching network group. Glad to have read it. Helpful for ministry.

  • Robert Stump
    2018-10-26 03:32

    Homo Homini Lupus http://manisawolftomen.blogspot.com/ Family Shepherds is a book that is hard not to get behind, the premise being such a stick at our politically correct, post-sense, nonsense culture. The driving idea behind Shepherds is that families are responsible for the discipling of their children. Listen closely. That distant sound like popping popcorn. That is the sound of minds being blown. It's true.Baucham goes even further: Husbands are responsible to disciple their wives, Fathers are responsible for their children. Of the hundred and ninety or so pages seven are given to discuss the responsibility of the church. The other one eighty focus on the responsibility of Christian men to lead their families.The book opens with an introduction to the idea that the family is ultimately responsible for their own discipleship. The the concept of the family shepherd is introduced. Closing the introduction Baucham gives an example family, cleverly surnamed the Joneses. This introduction lays the ground work for what follows in the actual meat of the work. With the relevance of family shepherding established Baucham is free to elaborate on the most important aspects of the work of the shepherd. Namely, family discipleship and evangelism, marriage enrichment, training and discipline of children, and lifestyle evaluation.Each section is divided into three chapters. The first will usually introduce the section as a whole and elaborate what has been said on it so far. The second and third turn toward the practical implementation. For instance the first section on family discipleship opens with a discussion of the gospel and what exactly the gospel is. Then the second chapter discusses catechism and doctrinal education within the home. The final chapter gives an overview of family worship and suggestions for its practice. Each portion follows a similar structure with variation for the subject matter.Minds are blowing every day.While reading through Shepherds this tight interior structure is not apparent. One reads cover to cover oblivious to the way in which the author paces each bit of information and only at the end looking back does he see the pattern. Much like rambling along a trail in a forest, where the path has been well worn and well prepared the walker is free to enjoy the walk and forget about the walking.Baucham explains in one of the appendices that he breaks up their church calendar into four blocks which correspond to the major ideas of family shepherding. There is not much of a caveat here, but the implication was clear enough: without constant feedback and focus a community will not implement this plan. A church's men's group won't become shepherds without a change in focus of the church en masse. This is not to say than a particularly devoted individual would not be able to plow through the springtime of a new idea and stay the course as competing commitments encroach upon his new dedication to shepherding. No, there will certainly be men who will read Baucham's work and be changed for the better. What remains to be seen is if there will be the implementation of a such a plan which focuses intently on the heads of household in a wider scope one that couldn't be talked about as 'families' but churches and communities of families.My only real issue with the work is the paper that the cover is printed on. I'm not sure if it is Touche or not, but it feels like it. And FiberMark may claim that it is 'luxuriously appealing to the touch' but I for one am not convinced. It has an half rubbery feel that I just don't care for. Moreover, this book is obviously geared toward men, and I for one cannot understand who thought 'luxuriously appealing to the touch' was the sort of marketing that appeals to men. And again the it doesn't match up with the rugged 1st century shepherds robe, staff and sandals as portrayed on the cover (see the above image). Regardless of how one feels about the paper stock this should not be ample deterrent for reading this book. It is excellent after all.4.5/5Propter Sanguinem Agni,RSThis book was provided to me free of charge by the publisher. They asked only for my honest opinion. Nothing weird or anything like that. I am only disclosing this information because it is illegal if I don't. I'm pretty sure that I would go to prison, probably for life, seeing how reviewing a product you are given for free under the guise of having purchased it yourself is similar to murder. O laws, like whitewashed tombs!

  • Ethan
    2018-11-11 08:33

    Even though most people would still agree that the family is an important aspect of life, the quality of family life--and the instruction transmitted by parents to children--has certainly diminished in recent generations. This is likely the result of many trends, religious and secular, that have come together at this time.In Family Shepherds, Voddie Baucham Jr. gets to the heart of these challenging trends and provides direction for husbands and fathers when it comes to fostering a Biblical environment in the home where spiritual truths are taught in word and deed.In the book he describes the challenges coming from society: feminism, worldly parenting values, educational issues, entertainment, the expectation of the career as being one's primary form of identity, and so on. He also speaks of the problems bedeviling many churches, especially as it involves "youth ministry." He shows persuasively how "youth ministry" perpetuates the specialization trend to the detriment of the father and the family: however consciously or not, people end up trusting "the professionals" to provide the spiritual direction when the child will only really learn it from the parent.Baucham Jr. seeks to demonstrate, from Scripture, a better way forward, emphasizing the role of the man as the shepherd of the family, using Christ as the example for his life as a husband, father, in the career, and in the church. He encourages the use of catechism to instruct children in the faith, and speaks again, as he often does, of the value of "family worship." He places strong emphasis on church membership and participation in the local congregation. There is much of value in this instruction.In such an otherwise excellent book it is disappointing to have much with which to disagree. The book is permeated with the author's strong Calvinist position: his description of the dispute regarding free will and divine grace is one-sided, still fighting the full Pelagian strawman, seemingly unaware of the perspective's Biblical deficiencies. It would not be as much of an issue if it were not for his full application of Calvinist principles to children; one would get the impression from the book that the author believes children are little devils. There seems to be no grappling with the lack of full conscious capacity with children and what that might mean when it comes to how one views children and works with children. Puritan sources feature strongly in the book, sometimes in interesting ways, but often to perpetuate some of the more wrong-headed views in the book. The author associates Sunday as the day of assembly with the Sabbath, something not found in Scripture and rather directly contradicted therein (Colossians 2:14-17, Hebrews 4:1-11). He also strongly emphasizes how a local congregation ought to engage in "missions of mercy" on a congregational level but never provides the Biblical support for the congregation being involved in such a work (probably because there is none); strangely, he quotes the one passage that shows how such is not God's intention (1 Timothy 5:16, making a delineation between who the church should support and who the individual should support).The theological challenges deriving from the author's Baptist background are all that hinders me from providing a strong commendation for the book. The concept is excellent; instruction to men to be the family shepherds they ought to be (and encouragement for single women with children toward the same end) is profitable; if only the book were not so suffused with Calvinism.*--galley received as part of early review program

  • Dave Wertz
    2018-11-09 03:32

    I was excited when I heard about the release of Voddie Baucham’s latest book and I have not been disappointed. This was actually my second time through. I’ve been a fan of Voddie ever since I first heard him speak at a conference last year and it is actually his relative lack of notoriety that’s makes me appreciate him that much more. I believe his dogged personal commitment to the family shepherding principles he espouses in this book have actually cost him the evangelical rock-star status he could have if chose to pursue it. I see no indication that he regrets his decision.The book itself is thin and accessible, and something that most men should be able to process. Voddie does a great job applying a gospel-centered treatment to the problem of male passivity that plagues so many Christian homes and churches today. I suspect some people are going to be disappointed with his brevity. This book takes a wide angled approach to a man’s God-ordained responsibility to his family and consequently Voddie addresses massive problems in 10 to 15 page chapters, often offering very little specific corrective action. This is no “Recovering Biblical Manhood and Womanhood” but then again, how many struggling husbands and fathers do you know who have picked up that 576 page beast to figure out how to do their job better. Family Shepherds is an excellent book that can be read quickly, and will evoke a lot of discussion without distilling down a complex problem to a three-easy-step solution. The weakest portion of the book was the section addressing sanctification accomplished in marriage. Voddie repeatedly asserts men are to work in marriage toward the sanctification of their wives but says very little to help the reader understand what this looks like. I can accept his brevity on several topics but this issue is not nearly as self-explanatory as other he addresses, so the reader may be left wanting to shepherd his wife but he is given no clear instruction about what he ought to do differently.I found the strongest and most helpful portions of the book to be his discussion on the “three-pronged approach to biblical discipline” and his later chapters on formative and corrective discipline of children. Both sections address matters surrounding gender roles and child behavior modification that, because they have become terribly convoluted in evangelical Christendom, have wrecked havoc on particularly younger Christian families. This is not the best book on male family leadership ever written but it is well written, easy to read and relevant as well as doctrinally sound and gospel-centered. I will be recommending this book to many of my friends.

  • Brance Gillihan
    2018-11-07 05:23

    Overall, this is an excellent book calling fathers to lead their families, and the church to support them. Every chapter offers helpful insights. At first glance, some of the chapters will seem a bit disconnected from family shepherding, but it is all interrelated. Voddie overreached a couple times. I agreed with almost everything he said, but a couple of times, in an effort to support a position, he makes a point from a passage that simply isn't about that when read in context (In one instance he hangs an argument on a debatable translation choice that seems completely divorced from the verse's context). And in chapter 9, on male headship, he steps perilously close to the eternal subordination debate that has been raging recently. However, chapters 10-12 are worth the price of the book by themselves. The discussion of pelagianism and its implication on parenting (ch 10) were especially helpful in our day when pelagian views are quietly being smuggled into the church. And chapters 11 and 12 on formative and corrective discipline are pure gold. Appendix 1 offers some helpful suggestions for church leaders who desire to help the men in their churches step up and shepherd their families. Overall, this book would be beneficial for every father.

  • CJ Bowen
    2018-11-16 04:49

    Practical, helpful, challenging introduction to the idea of spiritual leadership in the home. Baucham tackles marriage, childrearing, and family discipleship in a forthright and clear manner. He also adds a section encouraging men in the area of lifestyle evaluation, discussing use of time and money, churchmanship, and citizenship, areas frequently overlooked in similar books. Perhaps because of this, many of the punches were pulled in this section, but it should still serve as a wake-up call, especially to young husbands and fathers still trying to break out of single guy habits. He wisely includes a section on single mothers as shepherds, and offers several detailed appendices that lay out a simple pattern for fathers and churches to put the book into practice. He does have a tendency to lean on lengthy quotes from bygone eras, without sufficiently translating their message into today's vocabulary or culture, which weakens their force and usefulness. Overall, though, a very pastoral and useful book.

  • Bob
    2018-11-06 03:39

    I think it's healthy to read a fatherhood book every now and again, so I got this one after hearing Voddie interviewed on Focus on the Family. He did a great interview. I actually was more impressed with the interview than I was in the book.It's not a bad book, but not much groundbreaking, to me. He does emphasize a few points such as church membership that I don't usually read emphasized, which was good, but on the other hand some of his hobby horses were quite annoying. I almost stopped reading in the first part of the book when it seemed it was going to be all about his personal obsession with "age-integrated" worship services (heard that before, was unimpressed the first time I heard it, and no more impressed reading it from him). However, after I got past that the rest of the book was pretty good. Only a 3, though, I didn't feel any particular insight or excitement.

  • Brandon.capuano Capuano
    2018-11-07 08:29

    Good book, but far too broad. The overall purpose of getting dads to be shepherds, and yo guide them there, is a much needed word for our young men to hear. This book clearly states the biblical mandates set on dads, and has great insight into how to do this (e.g. Catechize your kids!)However, the book is far too broad. A young father who reads the chapter on spanking, for example, would say, 'OK, I agree that spanking is biblical. But how do I do it? When? How hard? How often?' or the chapter on church membership. 'OK, yes, I need to be a member at a solid church. But what does that look like? What do I look for? Where do I begin?'Then there is the whole family integration issue. As a Family Pastor, I obviously disagree! However the overall reasoning that dads need to step up and shepherd is 100% right on! I'll surely use this book in my ministry to dads.

  • Phil Sessa
    2018-11-14 08:32

    This was an amazing book by one of my favorite preachers. Voddie has a shepherds heart, along with an informed Christlike theological mind. He reads the culture very well both u. And out of the church and exposes right and wring directions. This is a must read for family shepherds (especially fathers and church elders). Many in the church are not using the methodology that Christ prescribed but have opted for pop Christian cultural methods that are not producing disciples of Christ in our families and churches. This is a book to read either on your own or in a group.Until the nets are filled...Phil <><

  • Daniel
    2018-10-31 11:43

    Pretty good book that highlights the impact and importance for fathers to be strong spiritual leaders in the home. He covers the synergy of spiritually mature churches with spiritually mature homes, the comprehensive nature of shepherding a family towards spiritual growth, and offers some practical suggestions for how a Family Shepherd can lead his family (I.e. with home worship, Bible study, intentional discipline, etc.). I question some of his theological underpinnings to a couple of his applications, but his emphasis that "father's theology matters" is right on. I recommend this book for purposes of encouragement and thought provocation, perhaps not as a hard-and-fast fathering textbook.

  • Rob
    2018-10-24 09:35

    I very much enjoy the writing of Dr Baucham. It is simple to understand and Biblical.This book doesn't give a precise checklist of what it takes to be a good shephard but provides principles on which to build a God-honoring leadership practice in the home. Like any good thing the principles will need to be developed which will be part of the joy of knowing God and being taught by the Spirit in Christ.

  • Robby Johnson
    2018-11-04 05:21

    Must read for all men single married or anything in betweenProvides biblical foundation for establishing roles of the family shepherd, includes helpful practical application points. Easy enough to jump into with no prior experience/knowledge, deep enough to engage the heart of one already journeying on the road faithful family shepherding.

  • Bill
    2018-11-06 07:29

    Great book. If you've read any Voddie Baucham books and/or listen to his sermons, then the first couple of chapters are sort of a review. The following chapters are good how to's for a family shepherd as well as how to disciple men of a church to step up to the plate and stop passing the buck. I would recommend this book for men wanting to learn how to shepherd their families.

  • Luke
    2018-11-15 04:39

    This is a pretty good book - nearly as good as Family Vocation. It has a more lively and passionate writing style, but says many of the same things. This is certainly counter-cultural, but important for us to be reminded of. "There's nothing we can do for our families that will ahve a greater positive impact than making sure we're healthy members of a healthy local church."

  • Brent Davenport
    2018-11-02 10:19

    Phenomenal!This book is pretty easy to understand (for the most part) and it is most definitely an eye opener. Any man whether in the faith for 1 year or 30 years can learn from this book. A must read for all fathers and what's laid out can also give mothers perspective, as well as help them pray specifically in regards to the many things involving shepherding a family.